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The year that was


Don’t ask me how another year has flown by. It’s downright spooky how time seems to be speeding up with each year that I get older. One minute, my children are pudgy little babes, and in the next, I can barely carry them they are such big kids.

I’ve decided to look back through my blog posts as a reminder of all the things that we’ve shared this year. (It makes the time not seem so fast to do this, somehow.) And I picked one highlight from each month. Here’s how it shakes out:

January 2010: I made my first trip to an Emergency Room. I was deeply disappointed not to find a McSteamy there. Or even a McDreamy, for that matter.

February 2010: I did some thinking out loud about hyper-parenting. While I don’t want to overdo it on the parenting front, I also don’t want to “underdo” it either. It’s a tough balance that I don’t think I’ve worked out yet. (Stella’s only extracurricular activity right now is Brownies, while many of her friends are involved in countless other activities.)

March 2010: While our kids may not be involved in many organized activities, they do achieve their own special moments nonetheless. In March, I was so proud that my little girl made it all the way to the top of the same mountain I had climbed.

April 2010: As spring arrived, my last shred of “coolness” (if I ever had any to begin with) melted away with the snow. No, it wasn’t a mini-van. You can see for yourself here.

May 2010: During this month, I wrote a post about skin cancer and its occurence in Canada. It’s something that we Canucks don’t tend to worry about. Sadly, just this week, I learned that an acquaintance (yes, Canadian) with two young children is facing the worst with stage 4 melanoma. 

June 2010: I celebrated my one-year anniversary of blogging and agreed to speak at BOLO (blog out loud Ottawa). I also seemed to be in a ranting mood since I had one on not being able to find shorts for my daughter, I resented the toll commercials were having on my mental health, lamented that my children had to learn about oil spills and even complained about chain letters!

July 2010: I took a long-overdue family vacation to Maine and Cape Cod, which seemed to put a halt to all my ranting!

August 2010: This was a fun month! I spent some remaining time in Cape Cod, then jumped on a plane to New York City to attend my first Blog Her conference.

September 2010: In September, I took an amazing trip to Northern Quebec where I did some glamping and met some fantastic fellow travel writers.  

October 2010: Although this is my birthday month, what I actually remember most is how cold I was at Brownie Camp!

November 2010: I took my booty to boot camp.

December 2010: We’ve had a wonderful, relaxing Christmas break with our family (even though I didn’t get what I asked for my Christmas). 

You know what? 2010 has been a damn good year! We are a lucky bunch of folks.

Thanks so much for sharing it with me and I’m looking forward to more fun in 2011. My best wishes to you and your family for a year ahead that is full of joy and laughter. xoxoxo


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Teenage idols


Putting up a poster in your bedroom as a kid is like putting up a stamp of your own personality. Sure, your mother may have painted your room a colour you didn’t like or put up flowered wallpaper everywhere, but with a few posters, it was all good. It’s kind of a right of passage, isn’t it?

When I was my daughter’s age, I had my bedroom plastered with ballet posters. And likely a (young) John Stamos in there too. But after spending most of my elementary school years being referred to as a “teacher’s pet” and a “square” (remember that show Square Pegs?), I had changed my idols by the time I hit teenage years. Instead, I had moved on to dark moody types like the Depeche Mode band and rebellious types like Billy Idol. And although these posters continued to change and morph over time, one thing stayed the same — they were a public announcement of who I was, or at least who I wanted to be perceived as.

Now Stella has put up her first posters. (Correction: her first posters that are not Pokemon characters.) Here they are:

Can you recognize them from this picture? It’s Canadian astronauts Julie Payette and Robert Thirsk. I have to admit, it cracks me up big time. But at the same time, every time I walk by those posters, I say a little prayer: “Please, oh please, let these still be her idols when she’s a teenager!”


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Five resolutions for 2011


I certainly don’t need any new resolutions to keep for the year ahead because I am finding it hard to keep the ones I’ve already made! They are:

1. Make time for girlfriend time

This is a resolution I made back in a post on November 9, 2010. At that time, I called it a “small change” but it is remarkably difficult to maintain since my girlfriends and I have all generally have young families and jobs. But I will keep at it! For example, yesterday evening, my bestest buddy J came over with her family and we simply hung out and ordered-in pizza and yet, it was one of the best nights I’ve had in ages. It really filled up my happiness cup, so to speak.

2. Get fit and stay fit

This is something I’ve been trying to do for ages. Or at least, I “say” I’m going to try and do it. Like making time for girlfriends, it’s really about time management and not worrying about perfection — just doing it. In addition to actually forcing myself to choose this activity over ones that I naturally gravitate to like reading (and napping) of course. I’m looking forward to Booty Boot Camp starting up again in the first week of January. My girlfriend has also signed up again too and it will be great to get that adrenaline going once more.  

3. Learn to enjoy winter

Last year, on December 4, 2009, I kicked off a winter resolution series where I would do my darnest to try and learn to enjoy winter. This is a resolution that I will definitely need to keep working at. But it will certainly involve cross-country skiing and hot chocolate no doubt!

But I am also going to add two new resolutions to the mix. They are:

4. Give myself the gift of anticipation

I wrote of giving my children the gift of anticipation in the year ahead, but I also think I need this for myself too. One thing that seems to really have an effect on my level of happiness is if I have something to look forward to … you know, something more than going to the office every day and doing the dishes every night! For me, that’s a trip. My hubby is very much like me in this way and is always planning his next outdoor adventure. So I am going to pull a page out of his book and take a solo trip this February. (I promise to tell you more later!)

5. Say “yes” more

This is something I’ve been thinking about for a while too. For example, if my daughter asks if I want to play a board game, I want to try to immediately say “yes” — not “maybe later,” or “Mommy’s tired tonight,” or “I’ve got too much to do.” Even if all those things are true, they can not be more true than a child’s wish to spend time with her parent. I also see this relating directly to many of my other resolutions too since just the other day I said “no thanks” to a cross-country ski trip instead of “yes.” I want to try and say “yes” much more than I do now.

So I am going to focus on these five resolutions and see if I can keep making progress with them. I may even pull out a “resolutions chart” a la Gretchen Rubin and The Happiness Project.

How about you … are you declaring any resolutions? Do any of mine sound like yours? What do you hope 2011 holds for you?


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Christmas and the Marshmellow Test


I was driving into work a little later than I normally do a few days ago and the CBC radio show “The Current” was discussing reader feedback to a piece they had aired. In the piece, a “famous marshmallow test” was discussed.

I had never heard of this test, but it is really interesting and directly related to my post on giving my kids the gift of anticipation. It was an experiment conducted by Stanford University in the 1960s with children on deferred gratification. Basically, they sat a child in a room with a single marshmallow and gave the child a choice between eating it right away or waiting for 15 minutes and then receiving two marshmellows instead.

I found this TED video that provides an overview of this experiment and what the results are supposed to predict. It also includes priceless footage of children trying to resist the marshmallow!

The original experiment concluded that the children who could resist the marshmallow and wait for the fifteen minutes (which was about 1/3 of the 600 children) used a crucial skill: “strategic allocation of attention.” These kids were able to distract themselves, and their mind, away from the marshmallow by walking about the room, playing peek-a-boo, etc. The study continues to track these children and concludes that being able to resist the marshmallow is actually an accurate predictor of success in life — academic and otherwise.

Now, back to Christmas … those presents sitting under the tree are an enormous temptation aren’t they? Last Christmas, my daughter carefully pulled back the tape on virtually all her presents and ruined any kind of surprise we might have had on Christmas. So this year, we didn’t put any of her presents under the tree in advance.

Except one, that is.

Hubby wrapped up a box of cake mix and left it under the tree. She spent a great deal of time shaking, smelling and looking at it but she didn’t actually peek. Apparently, there’s hope for her yet.  ;)


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Why do kids love Christmas so darn much?


The excitement in our house is really building … 

My 8-year-old daughter is a believer and my 2.5-year-old son doesn’t really know who Santa is but he sure likes all the sparkling lights and chocolate! Is it the same at your house too?

I’ve been thinking about why kids love Christmas so darn much and I’ve decided it’s really not the gifts. It’s the anticipation of the gifts.

This and a few other thoughts are being shared over at Life As A Human today. (Go on! Click on over and visit me, it’ll only take a minute!)

photo credit: “Lovely Kid Waiting for Santa” Wallcoo.net

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