Comments on: Faking It

By: Crunchy Carpets

Crunchy Carpets — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:58:56 +0000

Oh yeah..My 5 year old had me adding in various increments..10′s, 15, etc…up and up…It was like being in school all over again..as I surreptitiously counted on my fingers and PRAYED I was right.

I do suck at math..I always have. So yeah..totally faking it with the kids now.

By: coffeewithjulie

coffeewithjulie — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:15:38 +0000

Modern Mom – Thanks for visiting! So glad you could relate to the post too.

Andrea – hah! I totally do that about my stomach too and other bits too.

Nat – Yes, same applies for all children, doesn’t it? It pushes us to become the kind of people we want them to become.

Finola – Of couse you know me! We’re bloggy friends! I talk about other bloggers to my husband as if they’re friends I just had coffee with!

XUP – never too late though, right?

Stefanie – haha! Don’t you know it … with Stella’s interest in snakes and insects and everything ick — I am constantly kicking back my own “girly” fear of these things and pretending that they are so cool and interesting too so that she is encouraged.

Laura – that is so great about the hockey! Stella has done that for me with outdoor activities. I’m not into it at all, bu as my “winter resolution series” attests, I am going to fake it till I make it too!

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 18:33:12 +0000

Yes! This is a comforting post. I am faking it ALL the time with my two girls. Math, body image, speaking up, positive talk about certain family members etc. I got caught for not faking it when a friend asked me to take a learn to play hockey program with her. In front of my children and friends I laughed and said “I could NEVER learn…I’m too old…I can’t skate…I am terrible at sports” blah blah My girls looked at me incredulously and threw all my encouraging parental babble back at me – “Why not?! You have never even tried, how do you know? You can do it.” I thought about my words all night and the next morning faked it and signed up at 40 to learn a new sport. Turns out, I really love it. I hope that if I keep faking the parenting talk…I will start to mean/live my words too. Maybe.

By: Stefanie

Stefanie — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:13:36 +0000

I, lucky mom that I am, have BOYS. Not only do I simply tell them of course I know everything, have no trouble showing off my math genius, BUT I get to pretend I love to touch snakes and have to make reasonable facsimiles of catching frogs. Ugh. I guess, maybe Stella’s mom might get THAT!!!

By: XUP

XUP — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 14:23:11 +0000

Very good. I’ve never thought of it this way and I think I’ve already passed on my number issues to my daughter. Although every tax season she stands all perplexed watching me do my taxes and asking how I know how to do that? Hot diggity. I’m going to try and fake my way through other math-related stuff from now on.

By: Finola

Finola — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:16:34 +0000

I actually saw this article at my hairdresser’s last week and kept meaning to comment to you. I was all excited….Hey, I know her. Wait, not really, but yeah, I kind of do. OK, I just FEEL like I know her.
Anyway, well done! You are so much more eloquent that I

By: Nat

Nat — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 19:14:09 +0000

Very true. I can’t see men having the same conversation…

One of the things I struggle is making sure I don’t pass on my many irrational fears to The Boy. I want him to try things — forces me to try things as well. (And that’s not a bad thing.)

By: andrea from the fishbowl

andrea from the fishbowl — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:55:15 +0000

As soon we we had kids it made me reasses a lot of things. Swearing, for example. I never swear in front of the kids anymore. And I totally fake math confidence. Funny thing, despite all my efforts, math skills (or lack therof) seem to be genetic. *sigh*

I also pretend I don’t have any body issues. I loudly proclaim how much I love my body/butt/squishy parts meanwhile I’m struggling to find a pair of jeans/bathing suit/whatever to minimize the aforementioned. *sigh*

p.s. I went to school with Kira. I love her columns.

By: ModernMom

ModernMom — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:16:04 +0000

Just found your post and had to comment! It’s brilliant! I have 2 daughters ages 8 and 11 and I am in a sense of hyper awareness of how I present myself, my weakness, my strengths, even my fear of the dentist!
So well written. Thanks for sharing:)